Sunday, February 6, 2011

3 Things your woman needs for emotional bonding and appreciation

1- Give her 100% of your attention when she talks to you. Put down the paper or turn off the TV. Women know if you are only half-listening or pretending to listen. You may be pleasantly surprised at how calmly and quickly she says what's on her mind when you give her all of your attention. Listen and respond patiently and kindly. If she starts talking at a bad time, tell her and set a time that is good for you both (sooner rather than later). Then stick to it without making her ask or remind you.

2- Take her to that romantic movie or "chick flick", you know she wants to see. Most women love romance and want to share it with you. Plan the event yourself and make it a real date. Make all arrangements for a sitter if you have children. If you can't afford to go out, rent the movie. Prepare snacks or a nice meal for her. Of course, include some chocolates! And make sure you do the cleaning up after wards.

3- Finish at least one item on her Honey-do list. Or clean your living space. Many women find it very bonding and sexy when her man helps out around the house, especially when he initiates it or works happily with her.

The best thing about these gifts is that you can give them any time of year, as often as you like. There's no need to wait for a special holiday to show your special someone how much they are loved. You may just find in the giving, that you too receive the greatest gift of all in return, the love and appreciation of your partner in return.

This trumps even Valentine's Day on a Friday. After all, were those the case you might be able to get away with planning something for Saturday with her instead? But it's not like you can substitute Friday the 13th for Valentine's Day and expect to get away with it.
So you may be thinking you have to gut it out and fight the crowds for the sake of "tradition" or something. Forget about it. Like I said, this is the year you're going to TAKE CHARGE and MAKE YOUR OWN RULES. Instead of "celebrating" Valentine's Day, start "celebrating" the woman in your life.
The year I met Emily, I did this to a certain degree by planning a BACKWARDS evening. That's right. I took her dancing at 7pm, hours before the crowds arrived…and caught dinner at 10.30 or so, long after everyone else was finished eating. All she remembers nowadays are the memories themselves, not at what time they happened.
But really, I think you can be even more creative than that.
If you live somewhere reasonably warm this time of year (like Australia, for instance) why not take it outdoors? Have you ever planned a moonlight picnic? If not, do it. You're only five days off from a full moon this year. Get away from other people and ignite that femininity in private.